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Tuesday, May 17, 2005

Ranting and Raving

First, how not to make my day:

I like a good meme, quiz, gimmick, questionnaire, joke, etc., as much as the next guy.

On rare occasions I am even tempted to share one that I found particularly compelling.  But please, please don't 'Pass me the stick', (the phrase du jour for trying to publicly shame someone into participating in what is essentially an on-line chain letter).

There is nothing wrong with bloggers who use most of their bandwidth to share these entertaining diversions.  Just as every office and school has a few people who are sought out for their seemingly endless supply of good jokes and stories... so too I know exactly where to surf if I want a good meme. 

However, if you are ever tempted to 'pass me the stick'... please go lie down until the urge passes.

If you really want to keep one of these things circulating around the Infobahn, don't announce to the world that you will be sending it to me.  My wife can tell you that about the best way to ensure that I don't do something is to make me feel like I have to.

'Have to' brings out in me the worst combination of stubborn and bone-lazy that you are ever likely to encounter!

Think about this; that guy in the cubicle next to you didn't have to say, "OK, now you have to go tell 3 people!" after telling you that dirty joke, right?  The good jokes and stories somehow manage to grow legs and get around on their own!

All I can say is that if a meme is really worth passing along it will be passed along without any 'passing of sticks' or 'tag-you're-it' crap. 

Okay, so where were we?  Oh I know... I wanted to tell you how you can make my day!

I've mentioned on many occasions how much I value the conversations that take place in the comments section here on treppenwitz.  This morning I woke up to find that a charming young woman from Spokane Washington had left a comment on a post I wrote this past September.  The post was one of those rare ones that wrote itself while I feverishly tried to make my fingers keep up with my emotions.  If you write you know what I'm talking about. 

Anyway, here is the thoughtful comment that made my day:

Wow, I am 21 year old without children and this brought me to tears. It makes me want to call my father and tell him how much I love him. The comment you made about daughters growing up into womanhood and crossing a line where they are a mystery to their fathers; I totally understand what you mean by that. I can see the "fear" in my fathers eyes. I remember what it was like when I was little and was my daddy's little girl. I lost something in my relationship with my father the older I got. I am not able to talk to him like I used to. I am also not as affectionate as I would like to be. I am not sure why, maybe some sort of stubbornness that developed. Your blog made me want to be that little girl again just to know the innocence of love one has for their parents when they are children. Sappy... I know. lol

Tracey

People, this whole blogging/journaling thing is done publicly for a reason.  Otherwise we would all be writing in leather diaries that would never see the light of day, right? 

I can't tell you how good it feels to find out that my thoughts and ideas struck a chord with a perfect stranger half-way around the globe.

I'm just as guilty as anybody when it comes to treating people's blogs and journals as my personal library.  The truth is, it's a rare thing when something I read online inspires me to respond.   However, when I do read something that inspires me or makes me a better person (even if it's for just a moment), I will try to remember how today's thoughtful comment made me feel... and I will try to take a moment to leave a comment of my own.

Thank you Tracey.

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Posted by David Bogner on May 17, 2005 | Permalink

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You summed up my feelings on this issue 100%. :)

Posted by: A Simple Jew | May 17, 2005 3:32:25 PM

I see someone tagged you with the "write something completely original and touching" meme. And you fell for it.

Posted by: Doctor Bean | May 17, 2005 4:17:45 PM

At least they pass you the stick, normally they just beat me on the head with it.

Posted by: Jack | May 17, 2005 4:44:14 PM

What's a stick? I have yet to receive one....
Great post but I do think of these blogs like
my own library and a great library it is.

Posted by: shloimy | May 17, 2005 5:41:18 PM

David,
Thank you for drawing our attention to Tracey's comment and to the post where you found it.
I only discovered your blog about 3 months ago and have not had/taken the time to read from the beginning.
"Long in the Tooth" was a beautiful post then, as it is today. It is a Father's Day type of essay, but then we know that each day can very well be declared Father's Day. That special time with your daughter and your Tooth Fairy persona will carry through your memories -- and hers -- for many many years to come. Something "Yakar" -- dear, precious AND enriching.

Posted by: Pearl | May 17, 2005 8:05:47 PM

I often wonder myself why I'm not writing all this in a book hidden under my pillow. But I gain a lot from finding common ground with others. It is incredibly rewarding when something I've written touches somebody else's heart. Wow. But at the same time, I have to be more careful what I write about, as I don't want to imperil my income (small as it is).

And I'll remember not to pass you any sticks. (Not to self: David does not like to play fetch!)

Posted by: Mirty | May 17, 2005 8:57:03 PM

thats exactly why i love blogging too

and i may take you up on your offer of shabbas... ill be studying at BGU from August-December. I dont think i said, but Im from California... youre welcome to check out my blog too, it was reading yours that encouraged me to post pictures

Posted by: wildroze | May 17, 2005 10:17:39 PM

Simple Jew... Well you're sure easy to please! :-)

Doctor Bean... Very cute. No, I'm not going to rat out the person who tried to pass me the stick.

Jack... hmmm, I'm gonna have to talk to doc Bean about adjusting your meds... still not completely right.

Shloimy... Passing someone a stick is slang for 'it's your turn to post this meme... answer these questions'... etc.

Pearl... Thank you. My goal was not to highlight an earlier post. But since you read it I'll admit it is one of my favorites. :-)

Mirty... Thanks. I appreciate that.

Wildroze... I hope you do decide to join us. I pass BGU on my way home every single day... so transportation isn't an issue. :-)

Posted by: David | May 17, 2005 10:54:42 PM

Jack... hmmm, I'm gonna have to talk to doc Bean about adjusting your meds... still not completely right.

It is good to know that I have turned into the blog lunatic. ;)

Posted by: Jack | May 18, 2005 12:19:27 AM

Ah man...does this mean I cannot tag you for the "199-if-I-was..." meme I was wanting to do today??? Does it? Does it? 8}

*p.o.u.t*

Posted by: mademoiselle a. [no meme for me, thanks.] | May 18, 2005 1:37:51 PM

Jack... I'm still checking the tea leaves to figure out exaclty what it means. :-)

mademoiselle a. ... That's the one that someone foisted on me... and thank for not sharing the love. :-)

Posted by: David | May 18, 2005 1:40:31 PM

Jack... I'm still checking the tea leaves to figure out exaclty what it means. :-)

Well I can't help you with the tea leaves, but I do know where you can find some cabbage. ;)

Posted by: Jack | May 18, 2005 4:24:54 PM

Jack... keep your paws out of my.... THE CABBAGE IS MINE! ALL MINE!

Posted by: zahava | May 18, 2005 6:02:04 PM

keep your paws out of my....

Zahava: Were you looking for the word "crisper"?

Posted by: Doctor Bean | May 18, 2005 6:37:29 PM

Jack... keep your paws out of my.... THE CABBAGE IS MINE! ALL MINE!

Zahava,

So many good lines to share and so little time.........

Posted by: Jack | May 18, 2005 7:09:05 PM

You people are sick, sick, sick...BUT FUNNY.
In ghetto-speak: Zahava, you've got your "kroov on, mama..."

Posted by: Pearl | May 18, 2005 7:11:23 PM

David, so did I really leave the impression in you that I was an ardent meme-doer? I should work on my expression, then.

This meme mentioned has been haunting blogworld recently. Some want to pretend you [the figurative you, I stress] can tell how many blogging friends you really have by counting the times you've been tagged by someone.

Isn't this is so fourth grade [even fourth graders would come up with brainier stuff, I fathom].

Posted by: mademoiselle a. | May 19, 2005 8:31:40 AM

mademoiselle a. ... No, I didn't mistake you for the meme-doing type (unless one came in stripes, of course). :-)

Posted by: David | May 19, 2005 1:41:00 PM

Pearl... All I can say is 'ouch!' For those of you who don't speak Hebrew... Kroov is Hebrew for cabbage. I think you and Jack need to write a book together. :-)

Posted by: David | May 19, 2005 11:03:24 PM

Going to the sifriah during sefira. I don't know about this.

Posted by: Jack | May 19, 2005 11:10:42 PM

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